“On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.” — Anonymous
Sometimes, to become successful and get closer to the person you can become, and have that career you so desperately want, you don’t need to add more things or rehash the same subject over and over without resolution. We need to learn how to stop that insidious noise in our heads, or I like to call it “The Brat,” that we allow to talk to us in a way we would never actually talk to anyone else as it can rip us to shreds. And because each of us has a different interpretation/definition of what success means to us, it is your personal journey to get where you want to go. None of us is hard wired the same way, so how could there possibly be only one option to becoming successful. So, the first step to success is to continue your work on getting to know yourself, warts and all. It’s time to let go, to give up on some of the thoughts, feelings, inner chatter, ideals, habits and conditions or rules you have given and set for yourself. And I think one of the biggest issues today, is that everyone wants to be liked. Sure who wouldn’t want to be liked? But most times that involves playing a slightly different role for each friend, and family member to help make them feel important and liked. What??? Or how about when you audition? Do you want to be liked by those listening, or do you want to get a job by not making it personal or emotional but understanding that this is business, your business. And you have a product to sell. Sure, know that no matter what, some people won’t like you and some people won’t agree with you. That’s how life roles. Terry Kole-Whittaker wrote a great book you might want to add you’re your library called, “What You Think of Me Is None of My Business”. That means that when you stop trying to please everyone, you get to be in the moment without becoming emotional, actually giving your full, undivided attention to what is being said. You get to listen without being in your mind trying to come up with some witty or insane repartee. Give it a go and see how calm and engaged you feel.
So… you can make whatever you want to make of your life and career. It’s up to you! Don’t waste your resources of time, energy and money trying to please others, beat your head against the wall trying to make somebody else’s plan of action work for you or continue to try to be perfect (whatever that means)! Care about and for yourself and your needs first. It’s like on an airplane, they tell you if you are with a child, always put the oxygen mask on yourself first then you can help the child. And remember that if you don’t make something out of your own life, someone else will. Avanti. Ciao until next time. Carol